DROWNING IN QUICKSAND HOW TO

When we face dramatic, monumental crossroads like how to treat a grave medical diagnosis or whether to move to a new state, the overwhelming nature of the decision makes us naturally aware that we are not fully in control here.

I think the mistake that leaves so many of us wasting time over small decisions is that we forget that we can trust God with these matters too. It is infinitely wise, powerful and amiable to those who trust themselves unreservedly to it, who love and seek it alone, and who believe with an unshaken faith and confidence that what it arranges for each moment is best, without seeking elsewhere for more or less, and without pausing to consider the connexion of these exterior works with the plans of God. De Caussade tells us that by simply fulfilling the duties of the present moment with complete trust in God…Į are always sure of possessing the “better part” because this holy will is itself the better part, it only requires to be allowed to act and that we should abandon ourselves blindly to it with perfect confidence. In a way, Abandonment is all about freeing ourselves from decision quicksand. This fruit, as we have already said, is produced, nourished and increased by the performance of those duties which become successively present, and which are made fruitful by the same divine will. This mysterious attainment of the age of Jesus Christ in our souls is the end ordained by God and the fruit of His grace and of His divine goodness. This is presented to us in countless different ways by the present duty which forms, increases, and consummates in us the new man until we attain the plenitude destined for us by the divine wisdom. Our moments are made fruitful by our fulfillment of the will of God. In the classic book Abandonment to Divine Providence, Jean Pierre de Caussade writes: I think there’s a spiritual lesson here, one that is particularly appropriate for Lent. The article goes on to point out that “time spent in decision quicksand before a choice correlates with dissatisfaction after the fact.” Faced with too many options, consumers unconsciously connect difficulty with importance, and their brains are tricked into heavy deliberation mode. Little decisions cause a big problem precisely because they are surprisingly hard. While struggles to pick a new job or a select a mate might seem to demand the most deliberation, decision quicksand strikes even harder over trivial choices. (In other words: I’m not the only one who is overwhelmed by the question of whether I want my milk in a bag.) Bob Sullivan of MSNBC reports:

Researchers are now studying this kind of thing, and they’ve come up with a label for it: “Decision quicksand.” Interestingly, they’ve found that it tends to happen more often with small choices than with larger ones. The same thing happens when I must choose what kind of dressing I want on my salad when I receive a new email and must decide whether to reply now or save it for later and when I am faced with the great human existential question: “Do you want fries with that?” bagless milk, I just about collapse under the weight of the pressure. I had no problem at all choosing which car to buy I decided the moment I walked into the front door of this house that this would be our new home and, five years later, I’ve never second-guessed that decision.

Every time I go to the grocery store, I am caught off guard when the checker asks me if I want my milk in a bag.

Drowning in quicksand